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The BackDrop Club Welcomes all of our party attendees!
Please be prepared to show positive ID indicating that you are at least 18 years old. This may take the form of a
BackDrop membership card, driver's license, passport,
college ID, sheriff's ID, student ID or note from your parents. You will also be required to sign a statement that says that you have read, understood, and agree to abide by the party rules.
Well, here it is...the moment you've all been waiting for....
ANNOUNCEMENT
The BackDrop Club Welcomes all of our party attendees!
Hosts: Robin, and the Staff of The BackDrop Club
Dates, times as announced on Club Calendar
Place: Location is announced when you buy a ticket
Who is invited: Anyone over 18, their friends and members of the
BDSM/Leather communities
Why: Because we want to have a party!
Member's of the Backdrop staff will be present. They will be acting as
representatives of
The Backdrop. They are the final deciders
on what is or is not allowed in a scene. Questions concerning The Backdrop's
equipment should be referred to them. Anything not covered by the GENERAL
INFORMATION and THE RULES should be referred to a host, who may refer or consult
with a member of The Backdrop's staff.
GENERAL INFORMATION
The rules are posted for your reference. Please read them before coming to the party. If you have questions about them, please send me email (robin@backdrop.net) and I will try to explain what they mean and why we have them. Please do not post questions about the rules, well, because the rules are not subject to debate. The hosts are in agreement on these rules, they've been field tested at many other parties, and they WILL be the rules for this party.
Unless you have made an online/telephonic reservation, be prepared to show ID. (We also card if you look too young!)
ID'S AT THE DOOR, PLEASE
Please be prepared to show positive ID indicating that you are at least 18 years old. This may take the form of a
BackDrop membership card, driver's license, passport,
college ID, sheriff's ID, student ID or note from your parents. You will also be required to sign a statement that says that you have read, understood, and agree to abide by the party rules.The rules are posted below for your reference. Please read them before coming to
the party. If you have questions about them, please send me email (robin@backdrop.net) and I will try to explain what they mean and why we have
them. Please do not post questions about the rules, well, because the rules are not subject to debate. The hosts are in agreement on these rules, they've
been field tested at many other parties, and they WILL be the rules for this party.
WHAT THE HOSTS SAY, GOES
Within the context of the party, the hosts are to be considered as having
the final answer. We reserve the right of final decisions on the rules, the right to
include, exclude or dismiss
anyone from the party without stating reason, and the right to reserve any other rights.
BackDrop parties do not have Dungeon Monitors at our events, you are expected to
behave as adults. On the other hand, the BackDrop staff is here to help you have
fun and not interfere in your fun. As of 8/20/10, the staff at BackDrop includes
two LVN's, an EMT, and AHT, and a Vet Tech. Everyone on Staff is, or is in the
process of, being CPR certified. All of us do Professional Sessions and we are
here to help you have fun.
PARTY LOCATION
Party locations vary from time to time, but these rules ALWAYS apply
PUBLIC TRANSIT
Public transit is VERY minimal in the Mountain View area.
Mountain View Cab can be reached by calling 650-254-2000. Distance is 4.5 miles from the San Antonio CalTrain Station, which will probable cost less than $15. Splitting the cost with another guest might be advisable.
PARTY TIME
The party is set to start at 8:00 p.m. Please don't come early. We'd love to see you all, but that's why we're having the party. It's gonna' be a long one, and we
will need the pre-party time for setting up, eating dinner, relaxing, and Doing Our Own Thing. Alone. [And Robin needs his pre party sleep :) ]
RESERVATIONS
BcakDrop membership and a reservation or RSVP is required to attend club
events. No entrance to the party will be allowed without a ticket, a reservation, or someone at the party vouching for you. Tickets can be purchased
by going to <a href="http://www.backdrop.net/events/reserve.htm">http://www.backdrop.net/events/reserve.htm</a>
WHAT TO EXPECT
We hold BD/DS/SM play parties. If you've never before been to a party like this, you can expect to see people
enjoying themselves in ways that the general public might not find 'acceptable.' In specific, you can expect to see
hugging, kissing, stroking, petting, bondage, tit torture, cock and ball torture, whippings, canings, spankings, etc.
If watching this stuff at a party would make you uncomfortable, perhaps this isn't a party for you.
There has recently been posted a variety of articles about party/scene and accepted standards of behavior. If you
haven't been to a party, you should take a look at these articles. They are not included here for a couple of reasons:
lack of space, and because these kind of standards aren't real rigid. They vary from party to party and scene to scene,
and they're not absolutes.
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
Perhaps, most important, you or whoever takes responsibility for you if you
don't take responsibility for yourself are responsible for your own safety and
well being, both emotional and physical. The door is unlocked and you are free
to leave at any time if you experience something you don't like. If help is
necessary, ask and we'll do our best to provide it.
INVITING/BRINGING OTHER PEOPLE TO THE PARTY
You may feel free to bring other (BackDrop nonmembers) to the party; however,
it is your responsibility to see that they have read this document and understand the
nature of the party that they'll be attending. Do not attempt to use this party
as a vehicle for playing a practical joke on your roommate. It is guaranteed to
backfire in an ugly way (see Rule 9, below). Violation of this rule will also
probably cost you your BackDrop membership.
SCENE SPACE AND NON-SCENE SPACE
Scene space will not be visible from the outside entry door and non-scene space will be mostly non visible. Check in and coat check will be in a foyer-entry
hall inside
the building. We may be able to provide some space for a private scene, but do
not
assume so. If you are interested in a private scene, you MUST ask a host,
preferably in advance, and have a reasonably good idea of what you're going to
do and how long . The hosts do not like surprises at these parties. If you do a
scene you
should expect an audience. If people watching bothers you, you should not do a
scene at this party. We have enough room that we may be able to set aside one or
two of the smaller session rooms for private scenes. The hosts may enter and
leave at any time. The door will not be locked. We will place a sign on the door
asking people to not enter.
DONATIONS AND FINANCIAL TRANSACTIONS
We will put out a donations bucket and accept donations. All donations should be placed in the bucket. If you
really want to donate and don't want to use the bucket, you may give donations to a host before or after the party. This party is more expensive than others
you may have attended, but we will have much
more room then usual and this is an equipped dungeon.
If you have bondage wares that you wish to sell and would like to exhibit, you MUST contact us in advance.
In general, you are welcome to exhibit and sell your wares, but you must make sure all items are legal and that you acquire any license and deal with any taxes (sales, etc) yourself.
We may be able to provide one or two tables for this. No other financial transactions are permitted at the party.
MEDICAL CONDITIONS/NEEDS
If you have some kind of special medical condition that we should know about, please do let us know
in advance. You have to judge for yourself whether that is the case. I would put in this category anything that might have
a strong negative effect on you, in such a way that you couldn't tell us what was wrong or what we needed
to do. If you have a medic alert bracelet/necklace, you should wear this or make sure someone knows
where to find it, if you've got it in your pocket, etc.
FOOD/DRINK
We will be providing fruit juices, soft drinks, munchies, snack food,
veggies, etc. By all means, feel free to bring more food if you like. Please do not, however,
plan on having dinner at the party (except events like dinners, brunches, etc) or call out for a pizza delivery during the event.
We will provide some soda. We will set aside a supply of juice and munchies for
those doing scenes as they can drain lots of fluid and energy.
WHAT TO BRING/WEAR
Please bring whatever tools and toys you'd like to the party. Because so many
toys look very much alike, you should either mark your stuff in some distinctive
way (e.g., colored tape or threads tied around handles or buckles or something)
or keep very close track of it. If you see a toy lying around that you'd like to
use, please ask its owner first. Using other people's toys without asking is a
MAJOR no no. When it comes time to collect toys, please make sure that you're taking
your own stuff and not someone else's. To paraphrase the airport baggage claim
people, many toys look alike.
If you would like to have some specific scene music, please bring that too.
We'll have CDs but we're not gonna DJ and we won't have time to run around
trying to assemble your requests. If you do bring music, for reasons stated
above, please mark it so it can be identified as yours afterwards. The Backdrop
should have CD and tape sound systems. As for what to wear, wear whatever you
want or don't want. Standard commonsense applies. Outside the party, there is
one thing you should be aware of. Dressing overly weird may change your chances
of an unfriendly encounter, either with the panhandlers or police, though I do
not think its going to be much of an issue.
CRASH SPACE
There is no crash space at the party space. If you will need crash space,
please arrange it in advance. One of the hosts has indicated that they may have crash
space.
FOLLOW UP
The point of the party is to have fun. Notes to the hosts after the party to let
us know that you did indeed have fun and to tell us where we did particular good
jobs arranging things will be received with much glee and will vastly increase
the likelihood that we'll roll another one of these things. Notes to the hosts
after the party to let us know where we screwed up will be received with less
glee, but send 'em anyway. Just try to be constructive
Party Rules And Conventions
1. ASK BEFORE TOUCHING, KISSING, PLAYING, ETC.
This is not a free sex for all party. This is not a free for all play party
either. Do not assume that the presence of someone at this party means you're
free to play with them, take pictures of them, post to the Net about their
presence at the party, or even touch them. Don't assume _anything_, in fact.
When in doubt, ask first. And always doubt. On the flip side, people who want
others to play with them should feel free to give blanket permission to everyone
to do whatever. We will try to have a mechanism for this; ask a host when you
arrive
2. RESPECT THE HOUSE SAFEWORD
Continuing the old (?) tradition, the house safewords will be "red", "yellow"
and "green".
If you are playing with someone and want to negotiate a separate safeword or set of safewords to be used between you,
don't. Everyone is expected to respect the house safeword, and to use it if you need to.
Simplified definition for anyone who doesn't already know it: a safeword is a
word or phrase that means "Stop what you're doing NOW". If you're playing with
someone and they use the safeword, stop what you're doing immediately, find out
what's wrong, and rectify it.
3. SEXUAL CONTACT and/or CONDUCT
Genital-genital and genital-anal, masturbation, finger-genital, finger-anal
and oral-genital may be allowed at some events but not others -- safe-sex
supplies are always available. If in doubt ask before attending an event.
4. NO MINORS
This means anyone under 18. As noted above, IDs will be checked if you look
too young.
5. NO CAMERAS, CAMCORDERS, OR OTHER RECORDING DEVICES
No recording devices (including cell phone cameras) of any kind will be permitted for any reason. This rule
applies regardless of whether you have the express permission of everyone whom
you are recording.
ANY CAMERAS BROUGHT INTO THE BUILDING AGAINST THE RULES WILL
BE CONFISCATED AND DESTROYED BY THE HOSTS.
6. NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL
No drugs may be brought to or consumed at this party. People under the influence
of drugs or alcohol will not be admitted.
7. NO SMOKING INSIDE THE BUILDING
Smoking may be done outside the building. If you plan on spending your time
undressed and want to smoke, you should bring a robe or something to put on. (We
will have a few robes available in the coat check area.
8. NO FREAKING THE MUNDANES
Common sense item: We probably don't want to scare the hotel goers or the
neighbors too much. Keeping toys mostly under wraps until you're inside the door
would be a good thing, I think. Waving two foot long pink dildoes at the hotel
staff, civilians or others is just WRONG!
This also includes any guests that you bring to the party. Don't drag some
vanilla person into this party unwarned and unprepared. It is your
responsibility to show them this document and make sure that they understand the
nature of the party that they will be attending.
Remember that we have more handcuffs per capita than ANY Police Department.
We know how to use them. We are not afraid to use them.
9. NO DAMAGE TO THE PARTY SPACE
The rooms where the party will be held are not ballrooms or conference rooms or
public area party rooms. They are being rented from a private club. Trashing the
rooms is not allowed. Please deposit all litter into the appropriate trash receptacle.
10. DRAWING OR LETTING OF BLOOD
Scenes specifically designed to draw or produce blood are not allowed
without prior approval of the BackDrop Staff
11. FIRE PLAY
Candles for wax play are allowed, but only if you clear it with a host first. We
don't want to leave wax on the floors/carpets as it's expensive to repair/replace/clean
them. If you wish to include any fireplay in a scene, you MUST ask a host first
and clear the scene with the hosts.
AFFIDAVIT
-
I am at least eighteen years old.
-
I understand and accept that this is an S&M party, and that consensual erotic
pain, not bodily injury [which is defined as intentional permanent damage],
nudity, bondage, cross dressing, role playing, and dominance/submission may or
may not occur in my presence.
-
I am free to leave at any time for any reason, stated or unstated. As the door
will not be locked on the inside, I will simply let myself out.
-
I will follow instructions given by a host or leave the party at that time.
-
If I view a violation of these Rules, I will immediately notify a host.
-
I am aware that all activity at this party is consensual, and no non-consensual activity or bodily injury of any type will be tolerated.
-
I have read and understand the Party Rules and Conventions, and by signing I state that I agree to abide by them, and that I
will not hold the hosts (The BackDrop Club, its staff and members) responsible for any damage to my self, my property, or to any other person
present at or involved in this event.
If you have questions about "The Rules" { Robinr57@yahoo.com } or call me at (650) 465-0700
This event was held Friday, 30 April 2010 & Saturday 1 May, 2010
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PUBLIC TRANSIT
Public transit is VERY minimal in the Mountain View area.
Mountain View Cab can be reached by calling 650-254-2000. Distance is 4.5 miles from the San Antonio CalTrain Station, which will probable cost less than $15. Splitting the cost with another guest might be advisable.
PARTY TIME
The party is set to start at 8:00 p.m. Please don't come early. We'd love to see you all, but that's why we're having the party. It's gonna' be a long one, and we
will need the pre-party time for setting up, eating dinner, relaxing, and Doing Our Own Thing. Alone. [And Robin needs his pre party sleep :) ]
RESERVATIONS
BcakDrop membership and a reservation or RSVP is required to attend club
events. No entrance to the party will be allowed without a ticket, a reservation, or someone at the party vouching for you. Tickets can be purchased
by going to <a href="http://www.backdrop.net/events/reserve.htm">http://www.backdrop.net/events/reserve.htm</a>
WHAT TO EXPECT
We hold BD/DS/SM play parties. If you've never before been to a party like this, you can expect to see people
enjoying themselves in ways that the general public might not find 'acceptable.' In specific, you can expect to see
hugging, kissing, stroking, petting, bondage, tit torture, cock and ball torture, whippings, canings, spankings, etc.
If watching this stuff at a party would make you uncomfortable, perhaps this isn't a party for you.
There has recently been posted a variety of articles about party/scene and accepted standards of behavior. If you
haven't been to a party, you should take a look at these articles. They are not included here for a couple of reasons:
lack of space, and because these kind of standards aren't real rigid. They vary from party to party and scene to scene,
and they're not absolutes.
PERSONAL RESPONSIBILITY
Perhaps, most important, you or whoever takes responsibility for you if you
don't take responsibility for yourself are responsible for your own safety and
well being, both emotional and physical. The door is unlocked and you are free
to leave at any time if you experience something you don't like. If help is
necessary, ask and we'll do our best to provide it.
INVITING/BRINGING OTHER PEOPLE TO THE PARTY
You may feel free to bring other (BackDrop nonmembers) to the party; however,
it is your responsibility to see that they have read this document and understand the
nature of the party that they'll be attending. Do not attempt to use this party
as a vehicle for playing a practical joke on your roommate. It is guaranteed to
backfire in an ugly way (see Rule 9, below). Violation of this rule will also
probably cost you your BackDrop membership.
SCENE SPACE AND NON-SCENE SPACE
Scene space will not be visible from the outside entry door and non-scene space will be mostly non visible. Check in and coat check will be in a foyer-entry
hall inside
the building. We may be able to provide some space for a private scene, but do
not
assume so. If you are interested in a private scene, you MUST ask a host,
preferably in advance, and have a reasonably good idea of what you're going to
do and how long . The hosts do not like surprises at these parties. If you do a
scene you
should expect an audience. If people watching bothers you, you should not do a
scene at this party. We have enough room that we may be able to set aside one or
two of the smaller session rooms for private scenes. The hosts may enter and
leave at any time. The door will not be locked. We will place a sign on the door
asking people to not enter.
DONATIONS AND FINANCIAL TRANSACTIONS
We will put out a donations bucket and accept donations. All donations should be placed in the bucket. If you
really want to donate and don't want to use the bucket, you may give donations to a host before or after the party. This party is more expensive than others
you may have attended, but we will have much
more room then usual and this is an equipped dungeon.
If you have bondage wares that you wish to sell and would like to exhibit, you MUST contact us in advance.
In general, you are welcome to exhibit and sell your wares, but you must make sure all items are legal and that you acquire any license and deal with any taxes (sales, etc) yourself.
We may be able to provide one or two tables for this. No other financial transactions are permitted at the party.
MEDICAL CONDITIONS/NEEDS
If you have some kind of special medical condition that we should know about, please do let us know
in advance. You have to judge for yourself whether that is the case. I would put in this category anything that might have
a strong negative effect on you, in such a way that you couldn't tell us what was wrong or what we needed
to do. If you have a medic alert bracelet/necklace, you should wear this or make sure someone knows
where to find it, if you've got it in your pocket, etc.
FOOD/DRINK
We will be providing fruit juices, soft drinks, munchies, snack food,
veggies, etc. By all means, feel free to bring more food if you like. Please do not, however,
plan on having dinner at the party (except events like dinners, brunches, etc) or call out for a pizza delivery during the event.
We will provide some soda. We will set aside a supply of juice and munchies for
those doing scenes as they can drain lots of fluid and energy.
WHAT TO BRING/WEAR
Please bring whatever tools and toys you'd like to the party. Because so many
toys look very much alike, you should either mark your stuff in some distinctive
way (e.g., colored tape or threads tied around handles or buckles or something)
or keep very close track of it. If you see a toy lying around that you'd like to
use, please ask its owner first. Using other people's toys without asking is a
MAJOR no no. When it comes time to collect toys, please make sure that you're taking
your own stuff and not someone else's. To paraphrase the airport baggage claim
people, many toys look alike.
If you would like to have some specific scene music, please bring that too.
We'll have CDs but we're not gonna DJ and we won't have time to run around
trying to assemble your requests. If you do bring music, for reasons stated
above, please mark it so it can be identified as yours afterwards. The Backdrop
should have CD and tape sound systems. As for what to wear, wear whatever you
want or don't want. Standard commonsense applies. Outside the party, there is
one thing you should be aware of. Dressing overly weird may change your chances
of an unfriendly encounter, either with the panhandlers or police, though I do
not think its going to be much of an issue.
CRASH SPACE
There is no crash space at the party space. If you will need crash space,
please arrange it in advance. One of the hosts has indicated that they may have crash
space.
FOLLOW UP
The point of the party is to have fun. Notes to the hosts after the party to let
us know that you did indeed have fun and to tell us where we did particular good
jobs arranging things will be received with much glee and will vastly increase
the likelihood that we'll roll another one of these things. Notes to the hosts
after the party to let us know where we screwed up will be received with less
glee, but send 'em anyway. Just try to be constructive
Party Rules And Conventions
1. ASK BEFORE TOUCHING, KISSING, PLAYING, ETC.
This is not a free sex for all party. This is not a free for all play party
either. Do not assume that the presence of someone at this party means you're
free to play with them, take pictures of them, post to the Net about their
presence at the party, or even touch them. Don't assume _anything_, in fact.
When in doubt, ask first. And always doubt. On the flip side, people who want
others to play with them should feel free to give blanket permission to everyone
to do whatever. We will try to have a mechanism for this; ask a host when you
arrive
2. RESPECT THE HOUSE SAFEWORD
Continuing the old (?) tradition, the house safewords will be "red", "yellow"
and "green".
If you are playing with someone and want to negotiate a separate safeword or set of safewords to be used between you,
don't. Everyone is expected to respect the house safeword, and to use it if you need to.
Simplified definition for anyone who doesn't already know it: a safeword is a
word or phrase that means "Stop what you're doing NOW". If you're playing with
someone and they use the safeword, stop what you're doing immediately, find out
what's wrong, and rectify it.
3. SEXUAL CONTACT and/or CONDUCT
Genital-genital and genital-anal, masturbation, finger-genital, finger-anal
and oral-genital may be allowed at some events but not others -- safe-sex
supplies are always available. If in doubt ask before attending an event.
4. NO MINORS
This means anyone under 18. As noted above, IDs will be checked if you look
too young.
5. NO CAMERAS, CAMCORDERS, OR OTHER RECORDING DEVICES
No recording devices (including cell phone cameras) of any kind will be permitted for any reason. This rule
applies regardless of whether you have the express permission of everyone whom
you are recording.
ANY CAMERAS BROUGHT INTO THE BUILDING AGAINST THE RULES WILL
BE CONFISCATED AND DESTROYED BY THE HOSTS.
6. NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL
No drugs may be brought to or consumed at this party. People under the influence
of drugs or alcohol will not be admitted.
7. NO SMOKING INSIDE THE BUILDING
Smoking may be done outside the building. If you plan on spending your time
undressed and want to smoke, you should bring a robe or something to put on. (We
will have a few robes available in the coat check area.
8. NO FREAKING THE MUNDANES
Common sense item: We probably don't want to scare the hotel goers or the
neighbors too much. Keeping toys mostly under wraps until you're inside the door
would be a good thing, I think. Waving two foot long pink dildoes at the hotel
staff, civilians or others is just WRONG!
This also includes any guests that you bring to the party. Don't drag some
vanilla person into this party unwarned and unprepared. It is your
responsibility to show them this document and make sure that they understand the
nature of the party that they will be attending.
Remember that we have more handcuffs per capita than ANY Police Department.
We know how to use them. We are not afraid to use them.
9. NO DAMAGE TO THE PARTY SPACE
The rooms where the party will be held are not ballrooms or conference rooms or
public area party rooms. They are being rented from a private club. Trashing the
rooms is not allowed. Please deposit all litter into the appropriate trash receptacle.
10. DRAWING OR LETTING OF BLOOD
Scenes specifically designed to draw or produce blood are not allowed
without prior approval of the BackDrop Staff
11. FIRE PLAY
Candles for wax play are allowed, but only if you clear it with a host first. We
don't want to leave wax on the floors/carpets as it's expensive to repair/replace/clean
them. If you wish to include any fireplay in a scene, you MUST ask a host first
and clear the scene with the hosts.
AFFIDAVIT
-
I am at least eighteen years old.
-
I understand and accept that this is an S&M party, and that consensual erotic
pain, not bodily injury [which is defined as intentional permanent damage],
nudity, bondage, cross dressing, role playing, and dominance/submission may or
may not occur in my presence.
-
I am free to leave at any time for any reason, stated or unstated. As the door
will not be locked on the inside, I will simply let myself out.
-
I will follow instructions given by a host or leave the party at that time.
-
If I view a violation of these Rules, I will immediately notify a host.
-
I am aware that all activity at this party is consensual, and no non-consensual activity or bodily injury of any type will be tolerated.
-
I have read and understand the Party Rules and Conventions, and by signing I state that I agree to abide by them, and that I
will not hold the hosts (The BackDrop Club, its staff and members) responsible for any damage to my self, my property, or to any other person
present at or involved in this event.
If you have questions about "The Rules" { Robinr57@yahoo.com } or call me at (650) 465-0700
This event was held Friday, 30 April 2010 & Saturday 1 May, 2010
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INVITING/BRINGING OTHER PEOPLE TO THE PARTY
You may feel free to bring other (BackDrop nonmembers) to the party; however,
it is your responsibility to see that they have read this document and understand the
nature of the party that they'll be attending. Do not attempt to use this party
as a vehicle for playing a practical joke on your roommate. It is guaranteed to
backfire in an ugly way (see Rule 9, below). Violation of this rule will also
probably cost you your BackDrop membership.
SCENE SPACE AND NON-SCENE SPACE
Scene space will not be visible from the outside entry door and non-scene space will be mostly non visible. Check in and coat check will be in a foyer-entry hall inside the building. We may be able to provide some space for a private scene, but do not assume so. If you are interested in a private scene, you MUST ask a host, preferably in advance, and have a reasonably good idea of what you're going to do and how long . The hosts do not like surprises at these parties. If you do a scene you should expect an audience. If people watching bothers you, you should not do a scene at this party. We have enough room that we may be able to set aside one or two of the smaller session rooms for private scenes. The hosts may enter and leave at any time. The door will not be locked. We will place a sign on the door asking people to not enter.
DONATIONS AND FINANCIAL TRANSACTIONS
We will put out a donations bucket and accept donations. All donations should be placed in the bucket. If you really want to donate and don't want to use the bucket, you may give donations to a host before or after the party. This party is more expensive than others you may have attended, but we will have much more room then usual and this is an equipped dungeon.
If you have bondage wares that you wish to sell and would like to exhibit, you MUST contact us in advance.
In general, you are welcome to exhibit and sell your wares, but you must make sure all items are legal and that you acquire any license and deal with any taxes (sales, etc) yourself.
We may be able to provide one or two tables for this. No other financial transactions are permitted at the party.
MEDICAL CONDITIONS/NEEDS
If you have some kind of special medical condition that we should know about, please do let us know
in advance. You have to judge for yourself whether that is the case. I would put in this category anything that might have
a strong negative effect on you, in such a way that you couldn't tell us what was wrong or what we needed
to do. If you have a medic alert bracelet/necklace, you should wear this or make sure someone knows
where to find it, if you've got it in your pocket, etc.
FOOD/DRINK
We will be providing fruit juices, soft drinks, munchies, snack food,
veggies, etc. By all means, feel free to bring more food if you like. Please do not, however,
plan on having dinner at the party (except events like dinners, brunches, etc) or call out for a pizza delivery during the event.
We will provide some soda. We will set aside a supply of juice and munchies for
those doing scenes as they can drain lots of fluid and energy.
WHAT TO BRING/WEAR
Please bring whatever tools and toys you'd like to the party. Because so many
toys look very much alike, you should either mark your stuff in some distinctive
way (e.g., colored tape or threads tied around handles or buckles or something)
or keep very close track of it. If you see a toy lying around that you'd like to
use, please ask its owner first. Using other people's toys without asking is a
MAJOR no no. When it comes time to collect toys, please make sure that you're taking
your own stuff and not someone else's. To paraphrase the airport baggage claim
people, many toys look alike.
If you would like to have some specific scene music, please bring that too.
We'll have CDs but we're not gonna DJ and we won't have time to run around
trying to assemble your requests. If you do bring music, for reasons stated
above, please mark it so it can be identified as yours afterwards. The Backdrop
should have CD and tape sound systems. As for what to wear, wear whatever you
want or don't want. Standard commonsense applies. Outside the party, there is
one thing you should be aware of. Dressing overly weird may change your chances
of an unfriendly encounter, either with the panhandlers or police, though I do
not think its going to be much of an issue.
CRASH SPACE
There is no crash space at the party space. If you will need crash space,
please arrange it in advance. One of the hosts has indicated that they may have crash
space.
FOLLOW UP
The point of the party is to have fun. Notes to the hosts after the party to let
us know that you did indeed have fun and to tell us where we did particular good
jobs arranging things will be received with much glee and will vastly increase
the likelihood that we'll roll another one of these things. Notes to the hosts
after the party to let us know where we screwed up will be received with less
glee, but send 'em anyway. Just try to be constructive
Party Rules And Conventions
1. ASK BEFORE TOUCHING, KISSING, PLAYING, ETC.
This is not a free sex for all party. This is not a free for all play party
either. Do not assume that the presence of someone at this party means you're
free to play with them, take pictures of them, post to the Net about their
presence at the party, or even touch them. Don't assume _anything_, in fact.
When in doubt, ask first. And always doubt. On the flip side, people who want
others to play with them should feel free to give blanket permission to everyone
to do whatever. We will try to have a mechanism for this; ask a host when you
arrive
2. RESPECT THE HOUSE SAFEWORD
Continuing the old (?) tradition, the house safewords will be "red", "yellow"
and "green".
If you are playing with someone and want to negotiate a separate safeword or set of safewords to be used between you,
don't. Everyone is expected to respect the house safeword, and to use it if you need to.
Simplified definition for anyone who doesn't already know it: a safeword is a
word or phrase that means "Stop what you're doing NOW". If you're playing with
someone and they use the safeword, stop what you're doing immediately, find out
what's wrong, and rectify it.
3. SEXUAL CONTACT and/or CONDUCT
Genital-genital and genital-anal, masturbation, finger-genital, finger-anal
and oral-genital may be allowed at some events but not others -- safe-sex
supplies are always available. If in doubt ask before attending an event.
4. NO MINORS
This means anyone under 18. As noted above, IDs will be checked if you look
too young.
5. NO CAMERAS, CAMCORDERS, OR OTHER RECORDING DEVICES
No recording devices (including cell phone cameras) of any kind will be permitted for any reason. This rule
applies regardless of whether you have the express permission of everyone whom
you are recording.
ANY CAMERAS BROUGHT INTO THE BUILDING AGAINST THE RULES WILL
BE CONFISCATED AND DESTROYED BY THE HOSTS.
6. NO DRUGS OR ALCOHOL
No drugs may be brought to or consumed at this party. People under the influence
of drugs or alcohol will not be admitted.
7. NO SMOKING INSIDE THE BUILDING
Smoking may be done outside the building. If you plan on spending your time
undressed and want to smoke, you should bring a robe or something to put on. (We
will have a few robes available in the coat check area.
8. NO FREAKING THE MUNDANES
Common sense item: We probably don't want to scare the hotel goers or the
neighbors too much. Keeping toys mostly under wraps until you're inside the door
would be a good thing, I think. Waving two foot long pink dildoes at the hotel
staff, civilians or others is just WRONG!
This also includes any guests that you bring to the party. Don't drag some
vanilla person into this party unwarned and unprepared. It is your
responsibility to show them this document and make sure that they understand the
nature of the party that they will be attending.
Remember that we have more handcuffs per capita than ANY Police Department.
We know how to use them. We are not afraid to use them.
9. NO DAMAGE TO THE PARTY SPACE
The rooms where the party will be held are not ballrooms or conference rooms or
public area party rooms. They are being rented from a private club. Trashing the
rooms is not allowed. Please deposit all litter into the appropriate trash receptacle.
10. DRAWING OR LETTING OF BLOOD
Scenes specifically designed to draw or produce blood are not allowed
without prior approval of the BackDrop Staff
11. FIRE PLAY
Candles for wax play are allowed, but only if you clear it with a host first. We
don't want to leave wax on the floors/carpets as it's expensive to repair/replace/clean
them. If you wish to include any fireplay in a scene, you MUST ask a host first
and clear the scene with the hosts.
AFFIDAVIT
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I am at least eighteen years old.
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I understand and accept that this is an S&M party, and that consensual erotic
pain, not bodily injury [which is defined as intentional permanent damage],
nudity, bondage, cross dressing, role playing, and dominance/submission may or
may not occur in my presence.
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I am free to leave at any time for any reason, stated or unstated. As the door
will not be locked on the inside, I will simply let myself out.
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I will follow instructions given by a host or leave the party at that time.
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If I view a violation of these Rules, I will immediately notify a host.
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I am aware that all activity at this party is consensual, and no non-consensual activity or bodily injury of any type will be tolerated.
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I have read and understand the Party Rules and Conventions, and by signing I state that I agree to abide by them, and that I
will not hold the hosts (The BackDrop Club, its staff and members) responsible for any damage to my self, my property, or to any other person
present at or involved in this event.
If you have questions about "The Rules" { Robinr57@yahoo.com } or call me at (650) 465-0700
This event was held Friday, 30 April 2010 & Saturday 1 May, 2010
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Remember that we have more handcuffs per capita than ANY Police Department. We know how to use them. We are not afraid to use them.
I am at least eighteen years old.
I understand and accept that this is an S&M party, and that consensual erotic pain, not bodily injury [which is defined as intentional permanent damage], nudity, bondage, cross dressing, role playing, and dominance/submission may or may not occur in my presence.
I am free to leave at any time for any reason, stated or unstated. As the door will not be locked on the inside, I will simply let myself out.
I will follow instructions given by a host or leave the party at that time.
If I view a violation of these Rules, I will immediately notify a host.
I am aware that all activity at this party is consensual, and no non-consensual activity or bodily injury of any type will be tolerated.
I have read and understand the Party Rules and Conventions, and by signing I state that I agree to abide by them, and that I
will not hold the hosts (The BackDrop Club, its staff and members) responsible for any damage to my self, my property, or to any other person
present at or involved in this event.
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