Orgasm control
Orgasm control (also known as extended orgasm) is a sexual technique involving an active partner taking control over a passive partner's orgasm. The technique can be used by anybody regardless of sexual orientation.
Typically, the active partner will give slow, gentle stimulation to the passive partner, gradually bringing them up to the point very high in the plateau phase where an orgasm is actually building, but will then reduce the level of stimulation just below that needed to trigger the orgasm. By carefully varying the intensity of stimulation, the passive partner is held in this highly-aroused state near orgasm. This process may be repeated as desired, but repetition causes the passive partner's urge to orgasm to become overwhelming. When the active partner eventually provides the passive partner with enough stimulation to achieve an orgasm, it may be stronger than usual due to the increased tension and arousal that builds up during the extended stimulation.
The aim of orgasm control is to prolong the powerful sexual sensations that occur during the final build-up to orgasm. It is a form of negative feedback. The physical demands of being kept in this highly excited state for a time can induce a very pleasurable, almost euphoric state in the passive partner. An active partner may derive pleasure from witnessing his/her partner in such an excited state.
Orgasm control requires a degree of skill in the active partner. It requires enough familiarity with the passive partner's responses to be able to vary the intensity and the timing of the stimulation accurately. If there is too little stimulation or if it is reduced too soon the experience is not as intense as it could have been. If there is too much stimulation or it is for too long, the passive partner will pass the point of no return and orgasm will occur before this was intended.
The experience can be intensified by the use of light bondage. Attitudes to bondage vary. Some feel that for the most intense experience possible it is necessary for the passive partner to be securely tied, while for others this is unacceptable and a turnoff. One possible compromise is to restrain just the passive partner's arms.
Orgasm control differs from the BDSM practices of orgasm denial, tie and tease and tease and denial. With orgasm control, the aim is the giving and receiving of the intensely pleasurable sensations involved, and the period of control is limited to a single encounter that ends in orgasm.
Because solo masturbation allows for precise control over the feelings and timing of stimulation, many people practice certain forms of orgasmic control by themselves. A technique known as "stop-and-go" or "edging" is where one will masturbate up until the moment before reaching the plateau phase after which point orgasm occurs, stopping suddenly before experiencing a climax. Many people report that repeating this technique several times during a single masturbation results in a stronger, more intense orgasm.
An experience of orgasm control is described in the section called "slow masturbation" in the popular book The Joy of Sex, but any method of stimulation (such as oral, sex toys or intercourse) can be used by the active partner, not just manual stimulation.
See also
References
- Alex Comfort (1994). The New Joy of Sex. < ISBN:1857320972 >
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