Establishing a clientele
Establishing a clientele
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Where is the best place to find sessions clientele?
Finding and establishing a clientele is much like deciding where to buy potatoes for dinner. Sure, you might go to any store to look for potatoes but your best chance is to look in grocery stores.
If you are looking for scene-friendly people, you could visit a munch or event in your area. You will find many scene-friendly people but few people looking for paid sessions. People who go to munches seek people to talk to, do sessions with, or interact with. They are generally comfortable being seen in public. Offer classes to these people and build a clientele from this group.
People looking for paid sessions are still in the closet and/or need to be very discreet. These people will browse adult newspapers, go to adult bookstores, or do searches online.
Finding sessions clientele
You must allow yourself to be "found." Seek employment in venues where your "client" will feel comfortable asking you if you do sessions yourself.
- Start out working for a sessions house or an established ProDom.
- Adult bookstores, bars, or stores that sell bondage equipment.
- Establish a small online website that sells bondage equipment.
- (buying bondage books or equipment wholesale or online and reselling them.)
- {if you have an artist skills, paint or draw art with a bondage theme and sell your works.)
- Write articles or stories about your specific interests with a short note at the bottom stating that you have written these stories from firsthand personal experiences.
- Create a website selling services related to sessions but not selling sessions directly.
- fetish modeling, "adult house cleaning services"
- Massage or escort services with a "no sex offered" disclaimer
- Establish an account with a webcam provider. Ask them to provide a filter so you only talk with people within a fifty-mile circle. Tell them that you wish to work days and afternoons or late nights. Some services will do this, while others may not. Consider your potential client and the times he will be looking for you. Lunch times and an hour or so before he gets off work or late nights. Starting out you need to be available in his or her free and private time.
- Allow the client to propose what he wants and what he is willing to pay
Finally, it may take time to build a clientele slowly. This is preferable to taking out billboard-sized ads and getting arrested in the first month.
It is best not to get arrested to begin with.
Free sessions are not illegal, so offer free classes or sessions. If the client enjoys himself, he will probably provide a tip or "make a donation." (You can legally charge for group classes but not sessions.) If he does not offer "a gift," be unavailable the next time they call with an "I am sorry, but my time is very valuable right now."
Where are the safest places to do sessions without fear of arrest
You need to remember that it is the task of the police department to enforce the laws of their jurisdiction.
- City police departments have a larger budget to fight prostitution than a local sheriff's department might have. You might call your local police station and ask for someone in the Vice Department. If they have a large police vice squad, you stand a higher chance of getting arrested. The obvious answer to this question is don't work in larger cities. You may not make as much money but will not have to pay bail, court, and attorney's fees. It will be up to the sex worker to decide risks versus income.
A policeman wants to make easy arrests. They do not want to spend time writing emails back and forth. The obvious answer is no sessions before the third or fourth email exchange.
A policeman needs firm evidence to make a bust. Will a policeman want to remove their clothes and get a whipping to get that evidence?
Updates
California Senate Bill 357 - The Safer Streets for All Act
SB 357 – New Protections for Sex Workers in California In 2022, California passed SB 357, the Safer Streets for All Act. The new law aims to improve the health and safety of sex workers and people perceived as sex workers in two ways:
- Police can no longer arrest people for violating Penal Code section 653.22, loitering for prostitution.
- People who have been arrested and convicted of loitering for prostitution can get their records cleared.
- Did SB 357 decriminalize sex work? No. Prostitution and other sex work-related offenses are still illegal in the state of California and may be punishable by up to 6 months in jail and a $1000 fine. SB 357 creates new protections for sex workers by repealing a harmful anti-loitering policy that enabled police to target and arrest people, particularly sex workers of color, based on “loitering with intent to commit prostitution.” Still, police officers may try to use other ways to arrest you, such as if they witness you taking cash in exchange for engaging in sex work, agreeing to engage in sex work, or engaging in sex work.
Know Your Rights: Stopped by Police
- What do I do if the police stop me?
- Ask, “Am I free to go?” If they say ‘yes,’ leave immediately and calmly. If they say ‘no,’ ask why by saying, “Can you tell me why you are stopping me?”
- Make sure the officer knows you disagree to be searched. Say, “I do not consent to a search.” Police can “pat down” your clothing if they suspect a weapon, but remember they cannot take your condoms as condoms may not be used as evidence of prostitution. If they confiscate or photograph your condoms, contact the ACLU affiliate in your region or the public defender’s office in your county.
- Cal. Penal Code § 653.22 (2022)
- If the police arrest you, exercise your right to remain silent.
- Say, “I want to remain silent.” You cannot be punished for refusing to answer questions. The police cannot ask you about your immigration status.
- I am currently serving a sentence in jail and am under probation or under community supervision for the charge of “loitering with the intent to engage in prostitution.” What can I do?
- Under SB 357, you may request to have your sentence recalled, dismissed entirely cleared from your record, and sealed, meaning you can treat the conviction as though it never occurred.
- I have an old charge and have already served my sentence for loitering with the intent to engage in sex work. Am I eligible to get my record cleared?
- Yes. Under SB 357, you can request your conviction be cleared and sealed.
- Clearing and sealing your record can increase your access to employment, housing, public assistance, and education.
- Will getting my record cleared help for immigration purposes? Can I get rid of my arrest record for loitering with intent to commit sex work?
- If you were previously arrested but never convicted (which could mean that no charges were filed, charges were dismissed. If you went to trial and were found not guilty, then your arrest records can be sealed and destroyed, meaning they would no longer be available to the public and your arrest can be treated as though it never occurred.
- How can I request to get my record cleared and sealed?
- You can get your record cleared and sealed by contacting the Public Defender or legal aid in the county where you have convictions.
Sources
See also Stage name and/or Starting your own Sessions house
External Links
Gloria Brames article on BDSM and the law
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