Charlene Deering
- Philosophy of Dominance
- by the late Mistress Charlene Deering (✦4-9-53 to †12-7-04)
Many times I have been asked why I want to dominate and train submissives. I have given it a great deal of thought, besides reading various theories. I know the desire to dominate has been within me since I was very young. Until I reached a certain age, I thought I was the only one who felt this way. When I discovered other people like me, I jumped into it wholeheartedly. I met my first slave in 1974,1 still see him occasionally. He is an errand slave. At the time, I still didn't realize why I was doing what I was doing, I just knew it was me. I discovered the contact magazines, ran ads, and experimented with the people I met. I tried out anything I read about, within reason. Then I tried my own ideas. I discovered so many facets to myself. Most importantly, I discovered that dominating people made me feel complete. Yes, it is a sense of power to me. But it is also fulfillment. I knew a long time ago that I was different from the other dominants in this country. One thing, sex has never been the focal point for me.
Most of the time, I had a female lover who was not a submissive, while I trained male slaves. I did not use slaves for my sexual outlet. My choice to live two separate lives was not altogether wise. I could not get complete fulfillment with my lovers because my needs to dominate were too strong. Of course, this caused problems of all types. I tried to compromise by giving in to my lovers, but that didn't help. In 1982 I ended my last non-S/M relationship with a woman. Since that time, I have continued training male slaves. I have also attempted to find a female who could be both my slave and my lover; I came to the conclusion that this is the only type of relationship that would work for me. I looked into the lesbian S/M scene and found that it was not what I wanted. The lack of femininity didn't agree with my tastes. Also, the lesbian groups seem to be anti-scene. I have a more traditional, feminine approach and this is what I wanted in a relationship. My male slaves could never fulfill my needs. Those who knew me well understood this and tried to help me find a female slave. I met a sometimes on loan from a husband or lover, but most of them were still interested in men, this was not what I wanted. I started a relationship with a woman in 1983. We started out as equals. However, I soon found I could no longer maintain a non-S/M relationship with a woman. I began to dominate her. She took to it and her behavior adjusted. But it wasn't enough. She proved uncontrollable unless kept in chains at all times. This wasn't practical, so it ended. I continued training my male slaves while looking for another female slave. Several short-term arrangements followed. I have recently acquired a female slave. In the process of working with her, I have had time to do a good deal of thinking. I know my decision to combine my two lifestyles was the right one. I have also found that the sense of power and fulfillment is still there, but I have now found dominance to be a sexual turn-on.
This is a surprise to me because I had always denied the possibility in the past. I believe that most of the problems in a S/M relationship are caused because the dominant half tries to fulfill the dominant role at all times. This gets tedious very quickly. Someone who is comfortable with her dominance isn't afraid to be human. I don't feel the need to constantly prove I am dominant, I know I am. The idea that the slave's life must be constantly difficult, unfair, and one-sided is ridiculous. If a dominant wants respect, fear, and love from her slave, she must inspire it. Like any other kind of relationship, it takes a lot of work from both parties. If either stops trying, the relationship is no longer nourished and soon dies. Keeping someone against his/her will is OK for a fantasy, but it doesn't work in real life. A successful S/M relationship is a combination of both parties' expectations and needs. If compatibility exists, the relationship will work as much as the effort that is put into it. Hopefully, the one I have begun will be a success.
Femina Society School
- From The Chatt
- No. 11, 1994
- The late , Mistress Charlene Deering
See also [ Femina Society ] I am a Branch Worker Trainee of the Femina Society and would like to tell you a little about what this entails and my training. Let me say right off that as a submissive male i am happier now than i have ever been in my life, because i have been lucky enough to find this opportunity to become a useful servant to Feminine Authority. Not that serving a Femina Society Domina and the Society is easy. i am receiving postal training that is rigorous and thorough. One of the first things i learned is A SLAVE HAS NO FREE TIME, FREE TIME IS FOR FREE PEOPLE AND SLAVES ARE NOT FREE.
All my time belongs to my Owner/Instructress and through Her the Femina Society. Part of my training is in sensual servitude and in this respect it is all i could ask for. Besides the sensual lesson tapes i receive, i am constantly instructed to do erotic writing assignments that give free rein to my fantasies. Topics have included giving my Mistress an extremely erotic massage (10 pages worth), worshipping Her feet, serving Her in the bathroom and many others, i have been given lessons in humility and taught the Femina Society's 12 positions of respect, so i will know how to behave properly when i am given the reward of being allowed to serve a Domina in person. This, however, is only part of my training, a necessary but not the most important part.
Another aspect of my training is the serious study of Female Supremacy; why it is natural, why it is right and why it is necessary. For example, i am currently working on a Center For Matriarchal Studies Summer Study Project. To complete this project i must read and report on three books. Not fuck books; but serious studies on the Natural Superiority of Women, the origins of human society as a Matriarchy, and how the patriarchy has unnaturally reversed the roles of the sexes and oppresses Women. Another topic of study in this project is male violence in this society and against Women in particular. Also included are lessons in honesty, loyalty, and how to be a proper and pleasing servant; which means learning to do useful work and serve only to please the Mistress effacing my own wants and desires. As you can see this is serious, all encompassing education.
i am also being trained in networking to promote tlie growth of the Femina Society and to spread the Society's goal of Female Supremacy. In order to describe this training, i need to describe the nature and structure of the Femina Society. The Femina Society is a Sisterhood dedicated to reestablishing Women in Their rightful place in the world, that is as Rulers of society and men. Men are allowed to participate in The Society only as students, servants and workers.
WOMEN ARE CATERED TO, MAKE ALL THE DECISIONS AND HAVE ALL THE RIGHTS; MALES HAVE NO RIGHTS BUT SIMPLY SERVE, OBEY AND CARRY OUT ASSIGNED TASKS. The Femina Society is definitely not a sex club and males who only want to have their fantasies fulfilled have no place in it. Submission to Feminine Authority is serious business and requires a serious attitude, i have a saying that applies, "if it was fun and easy they wouldn't call it work"; and being a servant is work and not always fun. Structurally the Society consists of the Mother Chapter, Sister Chapters and Associate Branches. Located in New England The Mother Chapter, under the leadership of the Foundress, Ms. C., organizes all facets of the Femina Society work.
Education is carried out through the School for Servants and the Center for Matriarchal Studies. Networking is carried out by communication with Sister Chapters, Associate Branches, other non-member Dominas, mailing projects, and advertising. The Mother Chapter is the final authority in all matters concerning the Society, especially membership, but works closely with Sister Chapters.
Sister Chapters are established under die auspices of a Chapter Leader, a Domina Who wishes to promote the teachings and goals of the Femina Society in Her geographical area. In the Society hierarchy, a Chapter Leader is second only to Ms. C., but is considered a partner, not a subordinate. The activities of a Sister Chapter mirror those of tlie Mother Chapter. This brings us to Associate Branches, which is where i enter the picture. A Branch exists where tliere is a worker or trainee but as yet no Domina has stepped forward to become a Chapter Leader. It is the duty of a Branch worker to conduct networking through mailings, advertising and in-person work to promote the growth of The Society. Branch workers are assigned to the Mother Chapter and receive instruction and supervision from it. This letter is an assignment; i would never undertake anything like this without permission and direction from a Domina/Instructress
A dedicated Femina Society worker.
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